1. You still don't have it all figured out.Just when you think you're supposed to have your life under control....you're still a major work in progress. Yes, you've likely graduated college or your post-secondary schooling and are in the work force in some kind of job that pays the bills. (Boo for adulting.) You may even be happily married to an awesome guy (like I am). But now you're faced with possible decisions like "Do I stay in this job for the rest of my life?" or "Do I move my family across the country?". And there's also the ever popular question of when to start a family or how long to wait to buy (or stay) in a home. Simply put, we've never really got it all figured out...and we really never will. And that's okay.
2. People have a whole lot of expectations for you...in a variety of areas.Along with the not having it all figured out thing, there's also this weird fact that people will constantly be asking you questions about your "plan", and you'll have some awkward conversations where you may receive heartfelt, well-intended advice that's potentially unwanted. Think back to your senior year of high school when people asked you what you were doing after graduation. It's like that, but on steroids. People are always asking about what's next: with a job, a boyfriend, a hubby, or (the oh so popular) starting a family. I truly believe that people have the best intent in all of this, and I welcome the conversation, but the mid-twenties do feel like this odd time of being asked lots of questions you don't really know the answer to, and then hearing others opinions on it all.
3. You STILL won't feel qualified as a "grown up" sometimes.One of the things that scares me most about potentially bringing a child into this world is just the fact that I still feel like a kid myself half of the time. To some extent, I never want to fully "grow up". But every now and then I wake up with a good hard realization that I'm not a little kid anymore...and I'm not sure how I feel about that. I mean, my mom had me when she was my age. What!? I still feel like I'm 20, maybe 23 max: young and wild and free. It's almost like we're just playing pretend "house", only a less fun version where I have to pay bills and taxes. Any of my twenty-something friends with me? And if you're not twenty something anymore...does this ever change?
4. Comparison doesn't go away after high school or college.I thought that once I left the halls of my 800 person high school that I would be in a world full of far less comparison. And then, college. Once we all graduated, landed jobs, and found our true loves, then surely that would be the end of it, right? Wrong. I think sometimes I struggle more with comparison now than I ever did as a teenager or college kid. Wedding planning was a huge struggle for me, mainly because I was one of the first to get married, and then I had to question all of my (unimportant) planning decisions as I watched all of my other friends get married. And then there are houses, jobs, marriages, and all of these new things to compare and be jealous of. And I hate that. I'm sure it will only continue with children someday, and I have to continuously focus on being thankful for what I've been given without worrying about what others have. And social media only makes it harder as we all project our seemingly perfect lives. It's time to be real, y'all. But I digress.
5. Time. Flies. And it doesn't slow down.This is the biggie for me right now: life is moving fast, and we only get to do it once. So we better make the best of it. People tell you this from the time you're born...but you just don't get it for a while. Until maybe college. And then one day you get married, and you wake up the next day and you've been married for three years. And you seriously start to have a minor panic attack at 25 because my goodness...a quarter of your life is already gone (if you're blessed to see 100). I know that fear and worry about time going by is no way to live life, but my goodness. I'm sure it only speeds up from here with kiddos! So what to do? Check out this blog's tagline: Learn fearlessly. Love fiercely. Live life fully. That's my motto and I'm stickin' to it.
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